Family life is an unwritten science that every couple overcomes throughout their lives. However, not all marriages end with happy endings. The Online.ua Guide has prepared the golden rules of family life, which should be hung on the refrigerator and followed daily to live happily and harmoniously with a loved one until old age. Yes, this is possible not only in fairy tales and romance novels.
What is needed for a happy family life?
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A happy family relationship is a significant effort on the part of each of the partners. Maintaining and keeping a "favourable climate" in the family is challenging. But it will be much easier if you follow wise rules.
First of all, a man and a woman should respect each other. Regardless of life circumstances, you must be steadfast in your choice. If you have nothing to hide from your significant other, living together becomes much calmer, and disagreements and misunderstandings disappear.
Second, you should praise your partner as often as possible. It doesn't matter for what — for a delicious dinner, an evening walk, relaxing in nature at the weekend. The more kind words you say to your partner, the more you will raise their self-esteem and let them know that you are needed by each other. The return will not be delayed.
And thirdly, you should remember that your relationship depends only on you. Whether they will be solid and last for more than one decade or fall apart a couple of months after the wedding due to some small thing — it is up to you to decide. Also, remember that efforts to maintain a happy marriage must be mutual.
What is essential in family life?
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Everyone has their meaning in family life. Someone wants to carry love through many years and share their life with someone who will always support and understand in any situation. The most important thing for someone is to give birth to many children and raise them as worthy members of society. For some, getting married is simply a tribute to tradition.
However, to save the marriage and not turn it into an "unbearable obligation of one to another", all people should remember that the main thing in the family is harmony. Harmony in everything, starting with respect for your partner's habits and character traits, mutual support in difficult life situations, and ending with the joint solution of household and other problems.
How to live happily in marriage — 12 golden rules
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For the marriage to be happy and last for many years, it is necessary to adhere to the following rules:
Talk about your feelings. A woman and a man must constantly hear "I love you". At the same time, it is crucial to back up words with actions — kiss, hug, pamper your significant other. This will let her know that she is truly loved.
Respect your partner's freedom. No matter how comfortable you are together, everyone must occasionally be alone with themselves and their thoughts. Sometimes, it is helpful to take a walk alone in nature, read a book or distract yourself with a video game. It would be best to devote time to your hobbies — fishing, sewing, playing a musical instrument, etc.
Consider the thoughts of your other half. Husband and wife do not always have the same views on one or another issue. But this does not mean that you should start quarrels over every little thing and try to convince your partner of the correctness of your point of view. It is better to learn to make compromises.
Build mutual trust. In a strong marriage, there is no place for doubts, suspicions and jealousy. If there is a misunderstanding, listen to each other's opinions without unfounded criticism, take the arguments heard as seriously as possible, and accept them as the truth.
Identify common goals and interests. The more a husband and wife have in common, their union strengthens. It doesn't matter what your interests or hobbies are. The main thing is that you have to look in one direction. It would be best if you discussed how you see the development of your relationship, what problems you would like to solve in the future and determine how to implement your plans.
Communicate more. Psychologists strongly advise not to keep all dissatisfaction and problems to yourself. If something does not suit you, it is better to discuss this situation as early as possible so that it does not cause mutual resentment later. The same applies to children. Wise parents will always listen to their children and give valuable advice.
Make your partner happy, give him gifts. This does not mean you should constantly "gift" your other half with expensive things. The most important thing here is to create pleasant moments - to give souvenirs, make surprises, exchange original holiday presents, etc.
Sex is not manipulation but intimacy and a manifestation of love. It is unacceptable that "marital duty" is used to achieve some goals. Such behaviour is a direct path to betrayal and the collapse of married life. When having sex, you, first of all, give each other positive emotions and joy.
Distribute the family budget correctly. The most optimal will be the decision to create a joint budget that will be spent on the needs of the spouses and their children and solving household issues. At the same time, it is pretty standard if each partner has their own pocket money, which can be spent on purchasing all sorts of little things.
Rest together more often. Going on a trip or to a resort together, you are guaranteed to get a lot of pleasant emotions, yo, and you'll be able to get to know each other better and spend more time together without being distracted by work and lifelong somewhere far is unnecessary - even going on a picnic outside the city brings family members closer together.
Respect family traditions. Developing traditions and habits unique to your family will be perfect. So, for example, several generations of the same family can gather at the festive table for the New Year and exchange gifts. It can also be a mandatory weekend trip to the cinema or cinema.
Decide who will be the leader of the family. If the team has two "captains" at once, it will lead to eternal arguments and disputes. Everyone will "pull the blanket over themselves." At the same time, leadership in the family is a big responsibility because you must be able to carefully consider all the arguments of the other side's interests and only then make a decision.
Observance of such rules, which at first glance seem simple and even banal, will help you maintain mutual feelings, trust and respect in marriage for many years. Be happy and loved!
